Is it normal to be tempted by other women

It just wasn't worth it, and I couldn't have lived with myself had I hurt my then-boyfriend. We've been together for almost 11 years, and at the very beginning, we honestly didn't think we'd end up falling in love and getting married.

We didn't take each other seriously at first, but then realized that we were each other's soulmate. Even though I kicked him out of the house, we still tried to make things work or so I thought for another 6 years. At that point, we had run into an old classmate let's call him Brian at the store. Brian wanted to catch up and asked us to look him up on Facebook. We ended up chatting, and I found out he's a licensed massage therapist.

I had been having a really rough week between work and my then-husband. I had found out my husband was having another affair and had gotten the woman pregnant, and the child was about 6 months old. Brian offered me a free massage. I knew it would probably turn into more than that. As the massage went on, it was evident it may have a 'happy ending.

Brian had a wife and kids. I could not be that woman. He told me things were over between them, but all I could think was, 'Is that what my husband had been telling these girls about us? I knew that he was most likely cheating on me.

At the very least, he gave me virtually no positive attention. Another guy was giving me that attention, and I liked it. He made me feel wanted.

When it came down to it, though, I couldn't do it. I am just not a cheater. Use Your Cheating Thoughts to Help Your Relationship You might think that thoughts about cheating can separate you from your partner or lead to infidelity. But your feelings for someone else might serve as an indicator that the spark is dying out in your current relationship.

Think about what the person you're interested in gives you that your partner doesn't. Do you crave more attention, appreciation, and TLC? In that case, the person you're thinking about is simply a reflection of what you miss and want back again. If you express what you're missing in your relationship to your partner, you'll reap the benefits of open communication.

If you really want another sexual partner, tell the person you're with. But deciding to have other sexual partners should be something you both are okay with. Neither of you is right or wrong if you remain honest.

Sign Up. Lifestyle Relationships. Photos via Getty. Gabrielle Gresge is a Chicago native and journalism student at the University of Missouri. While not chasing deadlines, she enjoys giving campus tours, exploring her new home, and missing her old one. She loves to write about these experiences in her own handwriting at gabriellegresge.

Relationship Advice. Trending Stories. Food Recipes Roundups. Temptation may be everywhere, but it's how the different sexes react to flirtation that determines the effect it will have on their relationships.

In a new study, psychologists determined men tend to look at their partners in a more negative light after meeting a single, attractive woman. On the other hand, women are likelier to work to strengthen their current relationships after meeting an available, attractive man. Men may not see their flirtations with an attractive woman as threatening to the relationship while women do. Researchers found that women protect their relationship more when an attractive man enters the picture but men look more negatively at their partner after they've met an available, attractive woman.

Men can learn to resist temptation when trained to think that flirting with an attractive woman could destroy their relationship, said lead author John E.

Researchers conducted seven laboratory experiments using heterosexual men and women to see how college-aged men and women in serious relationships react when another attractive person enters the mix. In one study, 71 unsuspecting male participants were individually introduced to an attractive woman. Roughly half the men met a "single" woman who flirted with them.

The other half met an "unavailable" woman, who simply ignored them.